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I’m an Average Looking
Guy, What Does it Take to Get a Great Looking Woman?
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Hmmm…wish we knew. We would then be not be sitting and
researching for answers to the Billion Dollar Questions!
On a serious note, there is a good chance you are one of
those who has asked this question to yourself and to your friends. Now at
Billion Dollar Questions we will try to provide you with inputs and web
resources to arm you with those special secrets J.
A search on the web for this question gives us millions of
web pages, and almost every one of the top 100 search results appear to be
promoting a book and not much else. Hence it was indeed a bit difficult to
find quality web resources for this – the signal to noise ratio was simply
too low – but we are trying our best.
This page – like all the other pages at BillDoll.com, The Billion Dollar Questions
Site - is a work-in-progress and stuff will get added regularly. So tune
in often, if you want to land that great woman ;-)
Useful Traits to Attract Beautiful Women
The five
traits that are important for you to attract a great girl/woman would be
- Humor
- Looks
- Confidence
- Empathy
- Charisma
All five need not be important, and you can consider
yourself quite OK if you are good at least three out of five, with humor being
compulsory, and any of the other two.
Being
Funny & Witty
Trust us – a sense of humour is perhaps the most important
trait you should have in order to win any woman – and the more intelligent
the woman, the more important is this trait. Cultivating a sense of humour
makes life easy for you in other ways as well – you live a more enriching
life.
A sense of humour does not mean telling crude jokes –
these might actually put people off. So what indeed is a refined sense of
humour?
- It is mostly about being a bit more creative & bold
saying some things (example, saying this to your girlfriend: “Wow, you
look beautiful today, but not as beautiful as my other five girlfriends
looked today”…will she be offended? Most likely not, it is rather clear
that you are pulling her feet).
- Seeing the funnier side of serious things – this is
probably the most important characteristic of a great sense of humour.
Example: Your girlfriend has lost her job today, and you tell her, “I
knew when I looked at the awful green paint on the walls of your office
rooms that it is not an office where people stayed for long.” It is not
easy to develop this trait, and at times you are likely to overdo it or
say something that sounds really silly while you ought to have been more
commiserating…but don’t bother about these trivial setbacks. People
desperately have a need for humour and fun when they are angry or sad –
if you can provide it, you will be an absolute star in anyone’s eyes.
- When someone screams at you, scream at yourself in an
exaggerated way! What the heck do we mean? Let’s give an example: Your
sister is cross with you because you forgot to pick her up from her
office the day before and she screams at you: “You are the most useless
brother earth has ever seen.” A funny response from you could be, “Why
just the earth? I’m the most useless brother any of the 9 planets has
ever seen, not to forget planets and satellites in other galaxies and
solar systems…” You get the idea…
Web Resources for How to be Funny
- How to be Funny – from Rink Works - Being funny is
hard work. Some people think that humor is easy, that anybody can be
funny with very little work. This is not true. To be funny there are a
lot of things you must know about humor and a lot of situations you must
prepare for, says this interesting and useful article
- How to be Funny – 10 tips & advice from Ask Men
- How to be funny - Why are comedians such good liars? How
hard do they work on their jokes? And how important is... timing? Jimmy
Carr and Lucy Greeves @ Telegraph, UK, explain
the rules
- Humor for Social Situations - How can you improve your
sense of humor interacting with people – from Clown
Ministry
- Books – How
to be Funny – course that teaches you to be funny, witty &
interesting; The Comic Toolbox: How to Be Funny Even If You're Not
- by John Vorhaus, Pub: Silman-James Press;
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Looking
Good
You might think
this is not in your hands. How wring you are! Looking good, to a large
extent, is in your hands.
If you happen
to look terribly ugly – broken teeth, unsightly scars & blisters on skin,
ragged hair etc…- you do have a problem with looking good and might want to
consult cosmetic specialists, you’ll be surprised at the extent of
improvement they can bring to your looks.
If you do not
belong to the above category and you have the looks of an ordinary male, it
is not very difficult to look good.
Looking good
is not the same as looking beautiful. You may not look very handsome and
could be considered the average Joe, but you sure can still look good! How?
- Dress – spend at least an hour (not everyday, just once)
thinking about what dresses best suit you. There is an awful lot of info
& guides available for this topic and we are not going to get into
it, but one piece of input: just avoid gaudy dresses, unless you wish to
impress a girl at a wild party.
- Posture – understand at the way you stand, sit and walk.
You can do this by observing closely a video shoot of yourself, from
comments made by others, or even by bluntly asking your friends…are
there simple improvements you can make in these? Is your posture erect?
Do you sit in a relaxed manner? Do you walk in a simple and straight
manner, without swaying? Posture can make you look much better than you
actually are.
- Smile – We’d consider this the most important. There’s
hardly a man who does not look better when he is smiling, than when he
is not. Smiles bring happiness to people around you, they make you look
better and they make people around you look and feel better.
- See also the BillDoll sections on
Being
Confident
Being
Empathetic
- Empathy is about rapport and openness between people.
When it is absent, people are less likely to consider your needs and
feelings. The best way to build empathy is to help the other person feel
that they are understood. That means being an active listener. There are
specific listening activities relevant to different situations -
information, affirmation or inflammation, says this article from Conflict Resolution Network
- Empathy is valued currency. It allows us to create bonds
of trust, it gives us insights into what others may be feeling or
thinking; it helps us understand how or why others are reacting to
situations, it sharpens our “people acumen” and informs our decisions,
says this
article from Mind Tools
Having
Charisma
- Developing your Charisma – from WorkStar
- Step-by-step Guide
to Charisma – from BBC
- How to develop Charisma – Twelve Key Moves – from Debra
Benton at Trump
University
- Developing Personal Charisma – by Martha Lasley @ Leadership
that Works
- Everyone Can Have Charisma If Only… Excerpted from
Charisma: Seven Keys to Developing the Magnetism that Leads to Success -
by Tony Alessandra @ e
Not Alone
- Books
- The 10 Qualities Of Charismatic People: Secrets of
Personal Magnetism - by Tony Alessandra, Publisher:
Nightingale-Conant
- Charisma: Seven Keys to Developing the Magnetism
that Leads to Success, by Tony Alessandra; Publisher: Warner
Business Books
- The New Secrets of Charisma: How to Discover and
Unleash your Hidden Powers - by Doe Lang; Publisher: McGraw-Hill
Books & Guides
- What the Hell Do Women Really Want: A Guide for Men
in the 90s - by Jama Clark, publisher: Island Flower Books, this
book has got mixed reviews, but most agree that it comprises fortright
opinions
- The Complete A**hole's Guide to Handling Chicks -
Author: Dan Indante, Karl Marks, publisher: St. Martin's Griffin. A
witty and humourous book, with some of the insights being really useful
and not just funny!
- The Layguide: How to Seduce Women More Beautiful Than
You Ever Dreamed Possible No Matter What You Look Like or How Much You
Make - by Tony Clink, Publisher: Citadel
- Seduce Me! What Women Really Want (Seduce Me!) - by
R. Gregory Alonzo. Publisher: Rubicon Books; "The simple truth is
that most men just don't realize that meeting, seducing and bedding
women can be surprisingly simple", says this book.
Web References
- What does
it take to get a great looking woman? – Plentyoffish Forums
- Why
Do Beautiful Women Date Ugly Men? - AskMen
- How
to Date Beautiful Women – from Dating Class
- Why do
Handsome Guys Sometimes Go for Ugly Women? – from Plenty of Fish
- Dating Beautiful Women – from AskMen – The English is
not spotless, but there some good take-aways from this
article
- What Do Women Really Want – This is a must-read article.
The author reveals the “cosmic secret”, as she jokingly calls it, of
what women are really (now, we mean really) looking for in
men.
- What Do Women Really Want – an amusing story from
Get Amused, but perhaps not just amusing!
- What Do Women Really Want – an article in
Ability Magazine from a professional specializing in dating anxiety
- Why "cocky and funny" attracts women - By: David
DeAngelo, Author of "Double Your Dating"
- Impressing Women: Are You a One Date Loser – from
Ask Men – Tells men what they should not do on the first date.
Useful
- Science Festival speed dating study reveals science of
seduction - Preliminary results from the first large-scale speed dating
experiment (conducted mid-2006 in the UK) have shown that women make up
their minds about potential partners much faster than men, and revealed
the best type of chat-up lines. Read more from this Science
Festival, UK report (Word Document)
- The Top
15 Least Useful Skills for Impressing Women – from TopFive.com –
funny, and some of them very true
- How Women Pick
Mates vs. Flings - By Abigail W. Leonard, LiveScience, Jan 2007
- Love at First Sight? - What you see in the opposite sex
may depend on timing - by Frank Diller, American Scientist Online - The
world is full of cognitive dissonance and distractions—so when it comes
to impressing the ladies, fellas, timing can be crucial. And yes, eye
contact is important too, says this Mar 2003 American
Scientist Online article, read on
- Women Like Men Who Like Kids - says this
article from John Hopkins Bayview Medical Center
- The older man
mystique - Farhad J Dadyburjo – (India Times) Times News Network -
Women dig them, men envy them and they make ageing seem a cosmic joke.
We are, of course, referring to the smouldering oldies, guys like
Harrison Ford, Bill Clinton, Amitabh Bachchan, Michael Douglas, Zakir
Hussain, Richard Gere and that seductive ol’ Scot, Sean Connery, who
perennially have the women swooning. So what's the trick? This article
tries to explain
- Why Do Ugly Guys Get the Beauty Queens? George Wood,
from eZine
Articles
- How to Get a Girl to Like You – John Alexander, eZine
Articles
- Seduction of Sexy Women – How to Attract the Super Hot
Women by Being Direct – Vincent DiCarlo, eZine
Articles
- Too Ugly? Too Short? Here’s How You Turn Your Flaws into
Strengths – John Alexander, eZine
Articles
- Ten Types of Men You (Women) Need
to Avoid – American Inventor Spot – excellent &
thought-provoking list, good take-away
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now: Ten Types of Women You (Men) Need to Avoid – American Inventor
Spot – Hmmm…not too many women appear to be pleased with the ideas, if
one were to go by the comments after the article
- 8 Types of Guys Women Avoid – from Andrea Madison @ AskMen
- Some brief opinions / answers to the question “Which
Type of Men Do Women Like Most?” @ Yahoo
Answers
- Women are More Attracted to a Man If Other Women Like
Him Too – from Soft
Pedia, reports this article, based on a research study by the University
of Aberdeen psychologists
- How to Talk to Women Over the Phone - by Swinggcat -
from So Suave
- Why
Mediocre Women Desire Hot Men - By DCB It’s more common to see a hot
girl with an ugly guy than the other way around. This is mainly due to
the fact that any guy can overcome a dollop of bad genetics with a lot
of money and a fancy car. Seeing a hot guy with an ugly girl is much
more rare...read on, from DC Bachelor
- How to Deal with Incredibly Beautiful Women - by Allen
Thompson - from So
Suave
- Pics - Kurt Nilsen
– average looks but great voice, and you have Halle
Berry on the other hand, a very sexy and beautiful woman
Billion Dollar Site Highlights
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Dating
Glossary & Some Useful Online Chat Acronyms
Online Dating
Glossary and Dating Acronyms
Adult Dating
A/S/L =
Age/Sex/Location
Backstage
Photos
Backstage
photos are a sort of private photo gallery for your online profile
photographs which only people that you authorize can view.
Blind Date
BF =
Boyfriend
Chat Feature
Dating Online
DBF =
Divorced Black Female
DBM =
Divorced Black Male
DWF =
Divorced White Female
DWM =
Divorced White Male
eharmony.com
E-mail
Emoticons
Free Dating
Sites
F2F = Face To
Face
Instant
Messaging
IMHO = In My
Humble Opinion
Keyboard
Smileys
Long Distance
Relationships
Megafriends -
online personals dating site
Matchmaking
Personals
Photos
ROTFL =
Rolling On The Floor Laughing
True.com - a
dating site
Video
Related References
Related
Links
Online Dating School – tips on
flirting, body language, personality development, romance, dates and more
The Rules of
Attraction in the Game of Love - By Bjorn Carey, Live
Science, Feb 2006
Experts
Discover Men & Women are Different – SF
Gate
Dating
Glossary
Personals,
double date, blind date, match-making, dating service, matchmaker, romance,
love
General Reference
Web Portals
The following portals provide resources on research,
directory, search engine / search engines, yellow pages, classifieds
AOL, Yahoo, Google, eBay, YouTube, Yahoo Groups,
Wikipedia, CNN, Time, Forbes, Fortune, BBC
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